So Sex Week ended yesterday…(I’m actually writing this on Friday so that I don’t have to think about it tomorrow…not because sex is bad to think about on Saturday but because this practice of blogging every day of the week has been exhausting and that’s not how I wish to spend Sabbath.) The other day…
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The Non-Sex Stuff that Affects Sex
We often hear the question, “How far is too far?” and it’s asked within the context of having sex. Well, there’s another question that we should, perhaps, be a bit more concerned about. It goes like this: What’s that stuff that isn’t sex that will impact my decision to have sex and the actual act…
WWPD–What Would Paul Do?
Today I’m definitely speaking specifically to people who use the term Christian to define their faith journey. I’m also clearly making (as I always do) a few assumptions about what that means based on what I’ve learned and believe about God. We can’t get away from that. So if you find yourself responding with, “That’s…
Abstinence Isn’t Enough
We’ve come to day 4. From comments like “keep your legs closed” to “keep yourself pure” to “this is a moral standard,” I get a clear sense that we don’t talk about abstinence in enough detail. The first comment suggests that you’re able to simply shut off hormones, desires, thoughts… The second comment suggests that…
Consequences Part 2
When I think of people I know who aren’t experiencing sex (or intimacy of any kind) in a healthy, committed way, I see insecurity. It’s sad, really. I want people to be secure in who they are and in who their with and I want that security to come from a really healthy space, one…
Consequences Part 1
There are many. I’ll just focus on a few. Remember, we’re talking about the having of sex. Why focus on consequences? The hook-up culture, especially on college campuses, reveals our decreased focus on consequences, on long-term costs/benefits. In addition, we’re more focused on “what’s in it for me?” than “what’s in it for us?” which goes…
Yes, it matters. But of course!
I’m talking about sex…the having of it. It’s not simply a topic, an expression, a choice. It’s this deep, layered, and somewhat mystifying act even if you don’t believe in God. And it’s this way regardless of any other thing you can think of that creates an “us/them” sort of separation: class, race, gender, ethnicity,…