I try to use exclamation marks sparingly. So listen up. I’m not sure when I first heard or read the Nehemiah 6 passage but I do remember being struck by it. Struck, not in a, “Yeah, that’s right, Nehemiah, I’m doing a great thing, too!” kind of way but in a, “Wow. I want to…
Tag: consequences
The Non-Sex Stuff that Affects Sex
We often hear the question, “How far is too far?” and it’s asked within the context of having sex. Well, there’s another question that we should, perhaps, be a bit more concerned about. It goes like this: What’s that stuff that isn’t sex that will impact my decision to have sex and the actual act…
Abstinence Isn’t Enough
We’ve come to day 4. From comments like “keep your legs closed” to “keep yourself pure” to “this is a moral standard,” I get a clear sense that we don’t talk about abstinence in enough detail. The first comment suggests that you’re able to simply shut off hormones, desires, thoughts… The second comment suggests that…
Consequences Part 2
When I think of people I know who aren’t experiencing sex (or intimacy of any kind) in a healthy, committed way, I see insecurity. It’s sad, really. I want people to be secure in who they are and in who their with and I want that security to come from a really healthy space, one…
Consequences Part 1
There are many. I’ll just focus on a few. Remember, we’re talking about the having of sex. Why focus on consequences? The hook-up culture, especially on college campuses, reveals our decreased focus on consequences, on long-term costs/benefits. In addition, we’re more focused on “what’s in it for me?” than “what’s in it for us?” which goes…