There are many. I’ll just focus on a few. Remember, we’re talking about the having of sex.
Why focus on consequences? The hook-up culture, especially on college campuses, reveals our decreased focus on consequences, on long-term costs/benefits. In addition, we’re more focused on “what’s in it for me?” than “what’s in it for us?” which goes hand in hand with our self-centered approach to life on many levels.
Another reason to focus on consequences is our growing desire to make everything permissive–“you be you, I’ll be me…no judgment” when in reality, we can’t all be “free to be me” at all times. This sort of freedom within the context of having sex is frightening.
So here we go. We’ll focus first on the positive consequences of having sex.
- Intimacy increases because you reveal to each other something that is very private
- Trust increases as this private revelation increases and you both honor what’s been revealed
- Commitment increase because as trust increases, you have good reason to believe that you should stay together…and you want to.
Consequences Part 2. That’s our next topic in this 7-day series titled, “Sex–Respect It.”